Happiness in marriage is the ultimate goal of Texas men and women who marry.  While not without occasional bumps in the road, married couples are usually able to achieve happiness in marriage and family.  However, some couples find themselves in circumstances that make it appear that divorce is inevitable.  Such couples can't avoid the thought that some planning is in order.  Today's blog will provide some suggestions about what to do if you feel like divorce may be coming your way.

Try to work it out

Divorce should be a last resort.  When both parties are willing to seek help, much can be accomplished to repair the relationship.  Seek spiritual counseling from your religious leader, and when needed, seek marriage counseling, to help you overcome obstacles.  Learning to be selfless and learning to  communicate are life skills that are always a long-term work in progress.  Keep working at it, and be patient as your spouse works at it.  Ultimately, that is what you wanted at the time you married, and you should do your best to keep your marriage strong.

Preserve documents

If you or your spouse makes the decision to not attempt reconciliation, you will be facing an inevitable divorce.  Often, Judges and lawyers will need documentation to assist in the negotiations and decision-making that go along with a divorce.  Having ready access to the important documents, such as photographs, e-mails, texts, and bank statements will be a critical factor in your ability to succeed in your divorce.

Discuss the details with your spouse

If the decision to divorce has been made, try to discuss the issues with your spouse.  This discussion is most productive if scheduled in advance so that both parties can prepare emotionally and gather important information.  The discussion should not be had in the presence of the children.  Both parties should try to listen and understand the other person's point of view, with an open mind.   If you can agree on even some of the issues, make informal notes to memorialize your agreement.  These notes can then be provided to an attorney to be used in drafting the legal documents.  

Take the high road

Don't do anything that you might regret, or that would be harmful to your children or spouse.  Pretend like everything you do and say will be recorded for the Judge to view someday.  You will need to persuade the Judge that your behavior has been appropriate at all times, and in the best interest of the child. 

The attorneys of Christiansen Law Firm have extensive experience in assisting spouses in divorce cases.  If you are contemplating divorce, call the offices of Christiansen Law Firm in Houston or San Antonio to arrange a consultation.